Finding love can be a tough and intimidating task. Last weekend the Atlantic City Harrah’s Entertainment properties held a bunch of great events centered on love (it was Valentine’s Day weekend after all) to help those in need. One of the events included a “crash course in love” with hosts Steve and JoAnn Ward from VH1’s reality show Tough Love.
I was fortunate to meet with both of them after the event and I am excited to share the interesting advice they had for all of the single people out there.
First, I asked the love gurus what the three things a woman should know when approaching a man and vice versa. Steve says, for a woman it is important to be sexy and that is defined as “confident, fun and approachable.” He also says to be “positive with your attitude, smile and posture. And be real. Be genuine. Don’t be afraid to be yourself.”
For a man, it’s more about respect, being courteous and also having a positive attitude. JoAnn says men need to be a gentleman at all times.
When I then asked if corny pick-up lines work, the two immediately laughed and said bluntly, “no.” Then I got a bigger chuckle when I asked about telling a potential date if they have bad breath. Believe it or not the Wards said, “yes, definitely tell them and if you want to hand them a mint!” But in a nice way of course.
Here are a few quick tips
from the Wards:
1. Makeup: Less is more.
2. Focus on yourself and what you can do to attract the person you want to meet.
3. Don’t judge a person by looks alone. Find out more about what’s inside.
4. Dress properly. Not too baggy or tight. Leave a little to the imagination.
5. Give off the impression that you are easy to please.
6. Don’t be gaudy with your nails or jewelry (in excess).
7. Be as open minded as possible.
8. And this is for the men — make sure to have fun on your date in order to make it a memorable time.
9. Dont’s: Don’t be negative or talk about money, religion, politics or past relationships on a first date.
10. Men are simple: They require food, shelter, beverage and sex. If a woman can appeal to those aspects of a man then it’s a pretty good chance you can land them, according to Steve Ward.
Other advice included things like men are more willing to recognize that they are the problem if it isn’t working with another person, whereas women want to say that “he” is the problem and “he” isn’t want I am looking for, etc. Plus, according to the Wards, there are many more eligible women then men so if you see someone you are attracted to, just go for it. Don’t wait for it to happen. Women tend to complain about not meeting any good men, but you need to have what the Wards call “a 360-degree view on life.”
“If you don’t have eyes in the back of your head, then you gotta stop and turn around,” says Steve Ward. “Be mindful of what’s going on around you.”
The Wards even offer a five-step outline for approaching someone you like:
1. Ask a simple open-ended question. Like a silly icebreaker.
2. Within two minutes ask if they are single. It can be scary, but you can only get answers of “yes,” “no” or “why?” so have an answer prepared and keep it positive.
3. Read body language.
4. Make a suggestion. “You know what? You should take me out sometime.” Or “You should call me.”
5. State your expectation. If you give out your number, tell them what you want them to do with it.
The Wards definitely made an impression on the people who came to listen to their advice. I know that some of it is easier said than done, but ladies, you’ve got to do it! Follow this advice because life is too short to not take advantage of every moment. Check out the Ward’s Web site at www.mastermatchmakers.com.
I’m sure the Wards will be back in Atlantic City because when I asked them what their favorite place in Atlantic City was, they said they “loved” the Foundation Room at Showboat. “It’s really cool. Very private, great food, great atmosphere.” They also really liked Mia at Caesars.
Whitney is an on-air multimedia personality, and works behind the scenes helping businesses gain extra exposure, through her WIN Promotions video production services.