Are you in your dream home? Do you have your dream car? Do you have your dream diamond ring? I’m guessing most of you said no, but that’s OK, we are all pretty much in the same boat. It’s funny because I go to a lot of motivational classes and I learned a lot from working in the corporate world. One of the things that I always seem to hear is how we need to dream about what we want. When I worked in the mortgage world, many people ripped out photos from car magazines with their dream cars, or they would have a print out of their dream home or Rolex watch, whatever — and it would be staring them in the face every day at their desk. I guess it is a motivating factor for some, but that was never my motivation. My motivation was usually winning the daily contest, excelling in general or the thrill of being No. 1 that month in sales.
Then I would attend seminars and the speakers would talk about envisioning your dream car, house, vacation, jewelry, whatever and the theory is if you put it out there in the universe then it will come to you.
Well, here is some advice for all of you dreamers. This may come as a shock, but you need to stop dreaming and start waking up to reality. Working smart, knowing who you are, surrounding yourself with positive people, and networking efficiently are pretty much the keys to being successful and having all of those fancy things. Having dreams of grandeur, living the lifestyles of the rich and famous is all good and I am not saying it’s a bad thing, but I am saying that if you are living in your dream world then you are not living in reality.
Experts agree that if you concentrate on being the best in your business or raising the best family and making the world a better place then the good life will come. You won’t be disappointed and will more easily accept what you get if your dreams of the good life are more realistic.
Think about how you were raised. Think about what your parents sacrificed for you, think about how you will raise your children, and think about what you are doing now to make sure you are living the life you want. If you’re not, what can you do to start out on the right path?
In life everything happens for a reason and life is too short to let it go by without doing what you love to do. However, you should strive to be someone who works hard and knows how to ask for what you want. The worst that can happen is someone might say no. If that happens, don’t be discouraged. Just say, “Oh well” and move on.
There is an old saying that asks, “Who is rich?” with the answer being, “He who is satisfied with his lot.”
This doesn’t mean to limit yourself and not dream at all, but just reminds us how important it is to appreciate what we have every day.
Don’t be afraid to ask for what you want and make your dreams a reality!
This Friday, March 19, the Greater Atlantic City Jaycees and Atlantic City Weekly are having the 6th annual Top 40 Under 40 celebration at Borgata’s MIXX nightclub. I love this project and event because so many deserving people in our area will be recognized for the many things they do, including their contributions to their community as well as their leadership and entrepreneurship skills. As an honoree in 2008, I know that this honor has certainly changed my life and gave me a boost of confidence as I am sure this has done for many other past and current honorees. I want to say congratulations to everyone who will be honored because you all deserve it!
Whitney is an on-air multimedia personality, and works behind the scenes helping businesses gain extra exposure, through her WIN Promotions video production services.