What is up with all of the bullying in our schools? There are children killing themselves over people bullying them. I know when I was in school I was always thankful that the students were pretty good for the most part. There were a few fights here and there but nothing too bad. Maybe it has to do with the area we live in or maybe it had to do with the fact that we didn’t have texting, cell phones, social media etc. Who knows? But it is a damn shame.
Where do these children get off thinking that they can be so mean to another person? It’s even more sad because it’s not their fault. It’s the parents’ fault for not instilling common sense in these kids at an early age. It’s the parents’ fault for not properly loving their children and making them feel special. These kids feel like they have to bully other kids to make themselves feel better and then, God forbid if a tragedy such as a person killing themselves happens, the bully will feel guilty forever. Especially once they grow out of the bullying stage.
When I was a young kid we had no money, my parents separated when I was seven, and things were tough. My mom knew that my sister and I had to get a good education because that was something not provided to her when she was a kid, and she knew that her parents didn’t make her feel special (now they’re excellent grandparents) so she set out to do all the right things for my sister and I. We may have been poor but we felt good about ourselves and we knew we were loved. In school it was a different story. Thanks to scholarships, we were fortunate to attend a private school, however unfortunately it was with a lot of kids who didn’t understand how someone didn’t have “cool” clothes or gadgets and therefore we didn’t have many friends. I hated school every day but I looked forward to coming home to a loving home.
Now with texting it is so easy for kids to communicate. When I was in high school we finally got pagers and that was a big deal. However, even with those you had to find a pay phone to call someone. All that would come up was a phone number or sometimes a code such as 143 meaning “I love you.” Now kids have their own cells, they can take pictures and send them to each other. They can write notes to each other through text messages and send them instantly. In high school, it was always fun to pass notes. We would write a full page, fold it pretty and then pass it to each other in the hallway. I still have some notes — pretty funny what we used to write. Everything was so important and serious …. But anyway, back to the topic at hand.
It is true that times have changed. Technology has changed and, you know what, we have to change. We have to understand what is going on in these times and try to adhere to it. Social media has enabled people to say whatever they want with the security of anonymity. Even on the grieving sites for these people who took their own lives, “cyber bullies” are posting horrible things such as “They deserved it,” “She was an awful person anyway” — just mean things about a recently deceased person who has a grieving family.
The bottom line is we need to talk to our children and teach them about common sense and life events such as bullying, safety, sex and life in general. It’s imperative that we get out there and show them how to defend themselves and to realize that people love them. If they are being bullied we must make sure to tell the proper people so it can be resolved, and if they are thinking of bullying we must make sure to get the point across that it is not funny and not something to be proud of. It is wrong! Believe me they may hate you for it now, but they will thank you for it in the future.
Whitney is an on-air multimedia personality, and works behind the scenes helping businesses gain extra exposure, through her WIN Promotions video production services.