They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder or that if it’s out of sight it’s out of mind. Which do you feel makes the most sense?
I believe that when it comes to a feeling about someone or something, when it or they get taken away from us we still never really forget our emotions that were tied to it or the person.
But when it comes to something like a fabulous pair of shoes that have been hiding under my bed or deep in the closet, I hate to say it, but my feelings lean towards the out-of-sight side.
Ladies, we know that, because we don’t see the other three pairs of black patent-leather high-heels under our bed, it’s always a good excuse for why we need to buy that new pair of BCBGs that are on sale at Macy’s, right? But, why is it that emotions are so hard to let go of? Why is it, when we think of our current significant other, past boyfriend/girlfriend, a child, teacher, lover, whomever ... they bring up certain feelings, but we don’t always remember all the specifics about them? Just the feelings.
I find it fascinating how deep emotions run and how they affect us. There is another famous saying, by David B. Haight, that goes: “The people whose lives you touch may forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel.”
Can’t we all relate to this?
The reason I’m bringing this up is to help you become aware that your words can have a lasting effect on someone. Although it is easy to say things in haste or in love or in whatever situation when words are just flowing, try to be conscious of what you are saying. People will tend to forget chunks of a story, but they will remember that they left a conversation with you as say, the happiest or luckiest person alive, or betrayed, or confused, or any other emotion. They will remember how you made them feel — good or bad — and it will be hard to come back to that neutral, first-impression phase.
Ever since I was a child, I’ve always had to be tough and strong dealing with many emotional issues throughout the years. Obviously, I can’t tell you word for word what certain people have said to me, but I can certainly remember the aftertaste — how I felt.
Make sure to think before you speak and do the right thing by people. Be a positive influence in someone’s life because there aren’t too many positive people out there who are genuine and happy for others. Try it. Especially for someone who looks up to you and is listening to all you have to say. Your words will have a lasting affect so choose wisely.
Social Media Driving You Mad?
I am so excited about a new woman-owned business in our market. Wendy Manganaro is tapping into something that many of us business owners need a lot of help with — social media. Manganaro is the founder of Social Signatures, a local social-media company, with the tagline: “We put your signature on social media.”
During the time when Manganaro worked for her previous employer she started noticing that many companies were under-utilizing viral marketing so she decided to start her own business. Social Signatures helps small to mid-size businesses utilize the marketing tools of social media. According to her Facebook page, the company will update all aspects of a Facebook, MySpace and Twitter account/profile; send invites out to all of your events and even update your promotions, etc.
By allowing Social Signatures to do all of these things for you, it frees up your time to concentrate on the operations of your business as well as save you time and money. On Manganaro’s Facebook page there are all sorts of interesting statistics you can check out. If you’re on Facebook become her fan (as well as AC Weekly’s at facebook.com/acweekly) and if you know someone in need of these services she is easily accessible via her Web site socialsignatures.net.
Whitney is an on-air multimedia personality, and works behind the scenes helping businesses gain extra exposure, through her WIN Promotions video production services.