There’s a saying by Sam Levenson: “The reason grandchildren and grandparents get along so well is that they have a common enemy.”
It’s pretty funny and probably relates to many of us. Of course we love our parents, but sometimes their actions can be suffocating. For instance, my husband gets frustrated when his mother can’t figure out something on the computer. But then I watched him on Father’s Day explain the iPad to my grandmother, and he had patience for her — someone who doesn’t even have a computer!
Today, with technology playing such an important part in everybody’s lives, it can be particularly overwhelming for people with parents. A friend recently complained about her mother messaging her via text and Facebook too frequently on a daily basis.
We may feel frustrated and annoyed, especially when our parents constantly nag us, tell us their way to do things, keep us on the right life path (or so they think), and give their opinions when not needed. But you know what? Sometimes we have to listen; sometimes our parents are right and they do know better.
I think that we should understand that although our grandparents always give us that warm, loving feeling, we weren’t the ones that had to grow up with them. We didn’t have to put up with all of their issues like our parents did.
All we saw was the cake and candy.
Most grandparents are always so loving and welcoming. They love to get a phone call and a birthday card and they usually want to see you more, but they seem to understand that you are living your life and you can only make time when you can (although we sometimes take advantage of that and don’t make the time that we should). Grandparents get to take you out, spoil you, make you homemade meals, give you a few dollars and do all of the fun stuff. Some of us get along with them better than our parents because we like all the positivity.
However, we should always remember that our parents, whether they are close with you or not, are still your parents. They gave you life and don’t want you to make the mistakes they made. They want you to be the best person you can be. Remember that in most cases, our parents were just “kids” when they had us. They didn’t know what they were doing, there was no Internet back them to give tips on how to raise kids.
Sometimes we forget to remember all of the background stuff that was going on when our parents raised us. They worked hard to put food on the table. They took us to different activities or school events. They tried to help us make friends and belong to school groups.
Bottom line: There is a lot of pressure on parents, so try to keep that in perspective. Respect your parents for who they are and how they love you. Understand where they are coming from and learn about their background and how they grew up. You’ll see that although we all say we are not going to be like our parents, there will be many instances where we pick up their mannerisms.
We all have limited time on this planet, so no matter what your family situation is, if your grandparents raised you, or if you lost a parent/grandparent, embrace the calls and text messaging. Think about the good stuff you learned from your parent(s) and impart that wisdom to your own family.
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