Last week I attended the weekly South Jersey Soul Connection open-mike night at Sam’s Bar & Grille in Pleasantville, hosted by my buddy and fellow Atlantic City Weekly columnist Ray Tyler.
I try to attend them when I can, because we have outstanding local talent in our area and it’s very inspiring to hear everything from the pleasant sounds of aspiring singers to the exquisitely put-together lyrics by spoken-word performers. But one of the best parts of the evening is the intermission before, during and after the acts, where Ray asks personal questions to the audience that evoke emotional responses. Of course Ray is used to keeping the momentum going because he is a weekly DJ on 96.1 FM for the “Breakfast Club” every Sunday from 7-8am.
The probing question this past week was along the lines of, “Is it OK to not want to have children as you get older?” Of course there were mixed reviews, but something like that is really up to one’s own personal preference. So there was no right or wrong answer, but somehow the conversation transitioned into relationships, marriage, and courting someone you are interested in dating.
That courting discussion was very intriguing. It got some great responses from the crowd and I felt it was something we all overlook in our relationships. As we get to know someone and want to become serious, we usually start the courting process. Now keep in mind I am writing from a woman’s perspective, but normally what would happen is that the man would send flowers to her work, take her for dinner, woo her with poems, etc. Once the relationship is solidified, sometimes things can change. We can start to get comfortable with our daily routines, we can become complacent with our emotions, and we might figure we don’t have to keep wooing our loved one because now we have them in our grasp. This happens all too often, and it’s something so obvious but we just don’t realize it.
According to relationship expert Terry Ross, “All it takes is those small gestures, nothing fancy, nothing time consuming, nothing expensive, just small and thoughtful little gestures that show love, respect and affection for each other. An indication that we still appreciate our marriage, our relationship and the life we have together — compliments should be regular, not a thing of the past and not something that you believe is no longer required. Ensure that you spend time together and relax, enjoy and appreciate each other’s company. Don’t lose those intimate moments no matter how hard it may be. Touch hands when passing, hold hands when you walk, kiss each other hello and goodbye, make time for a cuddle every day and never loose the excitement of the fleeting glance and the odd caress.”
Just remember that we are all people who want to be loved and have love. We want to know we are cared about. Take a minute to call, e-mail, or even text a loved one, and tell them something that you know will ignite that inner spark.
This Weekend Is Packed!
This Friday, Oct. 22, come out and support the Alcove Center for Grieving Children and Families for the eighth annual “Harvest of Hope” Wine Tasting, Restaurant Sampling and Silent Auction from 6:30-9:30pm in the Palladium Ballroom at Caesars Atlantic City. All the proceeds benefit the programs that the Alcove offers. They are located on Tilton Road in Northfield, and have helped thousands of children and adults cope with the loss of a loved one, all at no cost. This is a worthy cause and something desperately needed in our community. Come out and see what we are all about. For more information go to thealcove.org.
On Sunday, Oct. 24, Olympic gold-medal winning wrestler and actor Kurt Angle will debut the first “Kurt Angle Teen Challenge” inside the Taj Mahal for the 2010 MMA Sports Extravaganza & Expo from 10am-2pm. They are looking for teams of four people, ages are 13-19, male and female, to compete in challenges such as chin-ups, water jug carrying and tire flipping to name a few. You can register at the event, or go online to kurtanglefoods.com and follow the link to “Teen Challenge.”
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