Have you ever assessed a situation and thought, “There has to be more to it, right?”
Sometimes things aren’t as black and white as they seem. In many instances there is a gray area that has to be interpreted — like when someone is telling you their side of a story and you believe them, but then you hearanother side to the same story that seems to make sense too. As the old saying goes, “there are three sides to every story: yours, mine and the truth.”
How can a society skeptical about everything, due largely to a definitive lack of trust, look at matters from all perspectives? Should we give others the benefit of the doubt or should everything be cut and dry?
I posed this question on Facebook — Are you someone who is cut and dry, who see things in black and white? If not, what advice can you give someone who doesn’t see the gray? I loved the responses, including these:
Maureen Gallagher-Bugdon: “Some things become less black and white with age and wisdom, other things are just the opposite. It’s not whether you see gray or black and white, it’s knowing when to see it either way.” I can’t agree more.
Maria Sacco Handle said that she is pretty cut and dry and tries to see things that way, unless it comes to negotiating. There is always middle ground when it comes to negotiation, and as long as it’s a win-win for everyone involved, then the gray area works.
Kristen Wickham agreed that she also tends to be a black-and-white person. She likes going by the book or by the rules. But she adds that there are those few times when presented with a problem, everyone will approach that same problem in a different way. As long as the goal is met, though, that’s all that matters.
Izzy Posner added that depth may be more important than shades of black and white. I agree with him too. We shouldn’t take everything at face value. Learning the facts behind something and understanding where they’re coming from is crucial to our decision-making process.
The bottom line is that when faced with any situation in life, try to detach yourself and look at it from all sides. There is always an underlying explanation as to why something happens. And even if you can’t figure it out, always remember that everything happens for a reason.
Sunday, May 1, from 2-6pm, McCullough’s Emerald Golf Links on Ocean Heights Avenue in EHT hosts the inaugural Golf Outing for the eeFuerst Foundation for Brain Cancer Research. My friend Ava Holly Lewis organized this fundraiser in memory of her beloved mother, Edith Fuerst, who passed away two years ago from brain cancer. She was never sick a day in her life and would light up any room just by walking into it, but after the diagnosis she sadly passed four weeks later. Just a few short months after that, Ava lost her father,Edward Fuerst. Currently Ava has a bill in the Senate to make May 20 (her mother’s birthday) “All Health Causes Day.” She announced the launching of this foundation last year on May 20, and garnered support from many local dignitaries, municipalities and others.
It’s important that we support our friends in the community. You can register to play online at mcculloughsgolf.com or contact Ava directly at 609-457-4103. There are various sponsorship packages available that are all very reasonable and, of course, for a great cause. Plus, after the fun day of golfing, there will be an after-party at Mangia by the Greens inside McCullough’s clubhouse. See you there!
I want to give a shout out to Captain Harry, who I met at a function at Pistol Pete’s in Pleasantville last weekend. He pulled on my heartstrings while explaining about how fisherman tend to miss their families while being out at sea for days at a time. So — as long as he has a copy of Atlantic City Weekly on his boat — I just wanted to wish him well.
As a freelance writer, Whitney's columns were published in multiple press outlets including: GoJaneNews.com The Atlantic City Weekly New Jersey Lifestyle Magazine & The Boardwalk Journal just to name a few.
She is the former host of the Entertainment Minute which aired on the NBC40 News and was featured twice on FOX's Chasing New Jersey.