Although we are only in the first week of June, for all of us locals, summer has officially started. If you were out this past weekend, you know what I’m talking about. The traffic was unbelievable, the beaches were packed, there were barbecues galore and many Memorial Day observances. The nice thing about Memorial Day weekend is that it has a meaning to everyone, so therefore we all celebrate together in our own ways.
My husband and I were fortunate to not only take part in the normal festivities of the holiday, but we also got invited to share a special day with our friends by attending a beautiful outdoor wedding. Of course the gnats didn’t cut us any slack, but when love is in the air, all is well.
Being surrounded by the close family and friends of the newlyweds was really inspiring. Many of the speeches and kind words resonated throughout the group, however a piece of advice by the bride’s godmother stood out for me. She said simply (and I’m paraphrasing) that communication is a huge key to having a long-lasting relationship, and she re-iterated to the new couple that there will always be people around you who are either jealous, envious and untrustworthy, so beware of what people say about you and your spouse because they may have ill intentions.
That advice is sad but true. Too often you’ll see people who are successful or happy or excited about something, and instead of their friends being big supporters, sometimes they become the biggest detractors. It’s just a very unfortunate aspect to human beings. We immediately become enamored with distrust and disloyalty and don’t even realize it. We listen to what the gossipers and naysayers have to say without even finding or searching for the truth. And the tragic part is that we make judgment calls based on the ill will.
The point that the godmother was making was to not let anyone break your bond. That goes for any relationship you are in, whether it’s personal between you and a spouse, friend or family member, or if it’s professional between you and a co-worker, boss or employee. The bond you have with someone is only trulyknown by you and that person.
Make your own judgment calls, she also said, and don’t let others tell you what to think. Always get to the root of the problem in order to avoid what I call the “whisper down the lane” syndrome. As words go from one ear to another, so do interpretations. We don’t have control over someone else’s actions, but we do have a choice on whether to accept them.
You could be the person that lives by the motto, “If you haven’t got anything nice to say about anybody, come sit next to me,” or you could follow the words of Benjamin Franklin: “I resolve to speak ill of no man whatever, not even in the matter of truth; but rather by some means excuse the faults I hear charged upon others, and upon proper occasions speak all the good I know of everybody.”
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Don’t forget that this Sunday, June 5, we are paying tribute to the late, great Elvis tribute artist and Galloway resident Ted Prior. He was truly an all-around great person who put so much effort into being a perfectionist with his craft. He lit up the room when we walked in it and really made everyone that he performed for feel so special.
Prior’s recent passing was tragic news for many, but now we can all come together once again to pay tribute to this local legend. Come out to the Ram’s Head Inn in Galloway from 2-6pm Sunday and hear many local entertainers singing for a great cause, which is to help Ted’s family pay off some medical bills. Light refreshments will be served and tickets are $30 per person or $50 per couple.
As a freelance writer, Whitney's columns were published in multiple press outlets including: GoJaneNews.com The Atlantic City Weekly New Jersey Lifestyle Magazine & The Boardwalk Journal just to name a few.
She is the former host of the Entertainment Minute which aired on the NBC40 News and was featured twice on FOX's Chasing New Jersey.