I saw a quote on a friend’s Facebook page that read, “When someone shows you their true colors, believe them the first time.”
It’s very matter-of-fact and so true, yet at one time or another we have all given someone the benefit of the doubt and it came right back to bite us. Due to the magnitude of that one sentence, I had to re-post it on my own Facebook page. And boy did it catch on. Friends were making comments like, “Amen,” and “I’m reposting.”
How can this one saying hold so much meaning for many types of people?
For me it has to do with choosing the right friends. In my lifetime I have met many people who didn’t follow through on their word, or I couldn’t count on them to be punctual or honest. Time after time I learned to accept these people for who they are, but I knew there needed to be a wall between us. Looking back, I wish I just “believed them the first time” in order to save me so much grief.
The same goes for a friend of mine who was married for a few years and got a divorce, but still dates women with the same characteristics as his ex. Or another friend who dated a woman a couple of times but to no avail — nothing changed.
Even in business settings you’ll start realizing that there are people who are always either late, sick or full of excuses and drama. And management still keeps them employed and gives them many chances with the hope that these traits will change. It’s good to give people the benefit of the doubt, however be aware that this is an issue that brought to excess can pose a real problem.
The bottom line is, many things in life don’t seem fair, and sometimes we just can’t catch a break or we really don’t have control over the situation. But we do have control over our choices. So when someone’s true colors finally come out, believe your past experiences, avoid the drama and choose to associate with those who show good characteristics.
* * *
Try to clear your schedule for Sunday, July 17, and make sure to save room in your tummy! From noon-7pm at Kennedy Park in Somers Point, the Alcove Center for Grieving Children and Families will be holding their annual “Sundaes on Sunday — All-You-Can-Eat Ice Cream Festival.” As well as the main attraction, there will be a petting zoo, pony rides, craft and food vendors, face painters and other children’s activities, as well as entertainment by 3 South Benson, Patrick Droney, Patty Blee and Lite Rock 96.9. There will also be demonstrations by the Margate Soul Line Dancers, Miss Margot’s Dance Studio and much more. It’s only $5 for adults and $3 for children. For more information check out theAlcove.org.
One of the reasons why I love the Alcove Center is because they not only offer free counseling services to children and families who have lost a loved one, but they also offer peer counseling, which really helps children express their feelings more openly. Everyone who volunteers their time with this wonderful organization genuinely cares about each person that utilizes the services. By supporting the Alcove with this event, you are supporting so many local children and families who need the help of the community. Make an appointment to do a tour of their Northfield location, and I hope to see you Sunday.
On Thursday, July 21, support Community Quest, Inc. and the family of wounded U.S. Marine Rory Hamill for the 10th annual golf tournament and bikini contest sponsored by the Tun Tavern Restaurant in Atlantic City (see page 8 for details).
And every Wednesday check out “Wacky Wednesdays” at the Absecon Lighthouse from 11am-3pm. They have such fun things going on as Victorian tea parties, “Christmas in July” and more. Visit abseconlighthouse.org.
Whitney is an on-air multimedia personality, and works behind the scenes helping businesses gain extra exposure, through her WIN Promotions video production services.