It’s that time of year when we are joyous about having days off, but at the same time dreading the almost forced family time.
Most of us would love to take a holiday vacation, get away from our daily routines and experience new sights and cultures, but during this time of year we are stuck in holiday-related traffic and stressing out about superficial things.
Don’t lose sight of the fact that although it’s tough to get along with everyone, especially the odd family members that you just can’t relate to no matter what you do, that you are spending time together because deep down it is a “ritual of reassurance,” as the quote goes by Phillip Andrew Adams. (“To many people holidays are not voyages of discovery, but a ritual of reassurance.”)
You are part of something whole, whether you like it or not.
It’s always important to accept those who you don’t understand because we can’t change others, we can only control our own thoughts and choices. Enjoy your time with your family elders because that facet of the holidays gets overlooked too often. I can’t tell you how many times I hear my grandparents complain that they don’t ever hear from certain family members. And make an impact on the young ones because they are very impressionable. Give them wisdom and no matter what your financial situation, make them feel rich from love and respect.
And, of course, work on yourself. It’s easy for me to tell you what you should do, and easy for you to see what’s wrong with others, but during this time of year it’s usually an eye opener. We reflect on all that we have accomplished, or didn’t accomplish and think about our goals for the next year.
Recently a friend told me, “I don’t believe in goals because you can either achieve them or fail.” He then preceded with, “I believe in outcomes.” If you determine an outcome you will figure out a way to get there.
I mentioned what he said to another group of friends and they looked at me like it was the dumbest thing they’ve heard — but for some reason I keep thinking about it. Sometimes we just have to know the big picture and if we have that vision then we will figure out how to get there.
Visualize your outcome for 2012 and then start on the journey to make it happen.
For all of you last-minute holiday shoppers, I’ve been finding some really cool and unique gifts online, and although shipping them would get to you after the holidays, these sites and items are still pretty cool to check out.
Thinkgeek.com has some cool items such as cupcake mints, cookie misfortune — evil fortune cookies — and caffeinated chocolate milk straws. However, if you don’t want all of that sugar then check out another interesting item they have in stock, which is a unique modern approach to weight management — called the Withings Wifi Scale. This is a wireless blue tooth scale that will accurately weigh you and post it on your own private custom Web page that tracks your body mass and shows your progress. Plus it can measure up to eight total family members on each scale, and auto recognize each one!
For fun office gifts check out knockknock.biz. Instead of the typical “while you were out” message pads, they have ones that read “while you were (check one) enjoying lunch, texting friends, pretending to be sick, getting coffee,” etc. Pretty funny.
My favorite new find this year, for us girly girls, are car eyelashes by carlashes.com.
Bottom line, whether you are giving or receiving, gifts are a lot of fun and no matter what your age it’s always exciting to unwrap something. Especially a thoughtful present from someone who cares. The smallest gesture will go a long way.
Remember, it’s never too late to make someone’s day.
Have fun and be merry, but most important, be safe and alert. Happy celebrating!
Whitney is an on-air multimedia personality, and works behind the scenes helping businesses gain extra exposure, through her WIN Promotions video production services.