I hope our readers enjoyed the dating advice in last week’s column. I got feedback from readers, and some said that learning how to find a date and get a date aren’t as easy as it seems. Some of the comments left at acweekly.com included: “Dating advice? I don’t need advice, I need a man!” and ”Date? What’s that?”
Listen ladies, if you don’t put yourself out there then you are not going to find someone.
Think to yourself (and men you can do this as well; just switch around the man and woman) about the type of guy you would like to meet. What does he look like? What is his occupation? Where does he hang out? What activities does he like? Then think about the various local places that your ideal person could be found. That’s where you need to be. Is there an activity that you love? Well take a class, do something different with your time. See where it takes you. You are only expanding your horizons and at the same time putting yourself out there to meet someone new.
In the meantime, you should also know how to properly prepare for a date. This can be a tedious task because, of course, we want to have a great outfit, accessories, makeup, etc. I could write pages on this and believe me I have a few great places that I want you to know about, but right now I am going to focus on preparing your look by starting with makeup.
There’s going to be a cosmetic education program coming up on March 7-8.
Ladies, you should check this out. Motives by Loren Ridinger — remember the cosmetics line I wrote about around Christmas? — is going to be holding a training at the Clarion Hotel and Convention Center in Pleasantville with the national director of training for Motives by Loren Ridinger, Jodi Usher.
At the March 7 training, you will learn about cosmetic application and technique (9am-3pm). You will not only learn about the proper applications and techniques, but also new information regarding the cosmetic industry. The cost is $50. Then there will be a workshop called “Getting the Look,” (4-6:30pm, $15), a hands-on workshop to build confidence and improve your application skills. You will develop your technique and start to create your “perfect look.”
It’s going to be a long day, but it will be so much fun that I bet at the end you’ll be asking for more. Well, you’re in luck as there will be a second and different training the following day on Monday, March 8. You will start with a “Custom Cosmetics Training” (9am-3pm, $50). There you will have added hands-on experience with both custom minerals and custom blend liquid. I have the custom blend and it is fantastic.
Then from 4-6:30pm ($15) it’s “All about Eyes” where you can master the applications for each shape and color.
Every woman I know has a secret desire to learn how to do their makeup properly. And who wouldn’t want to learn about the famous smoky-eye look or the barely-there natural look? This is your opportunity. I’ll be there. Just contact Usher at 214-2626 or e-mail her at email@example.com for more info.
I am probably one of the most low-maintenance girls when it comes to doing hair and makeup, but I have to say that this makeup is great for your skin and it can’t hurt to be educated, right? You never know when these techniques will come in handy.
Finding love can be a tough and intimidating task. Last weekend the Atlantic City Harrah’s Entertainment properties held a bunch of great events centered on love (it was Valentine’s Day weekend after all) to help those in need. One of the events included a “crash course in love” with hosts Steve and JoAnn Ward from VH1’s reality show Tough Love.
I was fortunate to meet with both of them after the event and I am excited to share the interesting advice they had for all of the single people out there.
First, I asked the love gurus what the three things a woman should know when approaching a man and vice versa. Steve says, for a woman it is important to be sexy and that is defined as “confident, fun and approachable.” He also says to be “positive with your attitude, smile and posture. And be real. Be genuine. Don’t be afraid to be yourself.”
For a man, it’s more about respect, being courteous and also having a positive attitude. JoAnn says men need to be a gentleman at all times.
When I then asked if corny pick-up lines work, the two immediately laughed and said bluntly, “no.” Then I got a bigger chuckle when I asked about telling a potential date if they have bad breath. Believe it or not the Wards said, “yes, definitely tell them and if you want to hand them a mint!” But in a nice way of course.
Here are a few quick tips
from the Wards:
1. Makeup: Less is more.
2. Focus on yourself and what you can do to attract the person you want to meet.
3. Don’t judge a person by looks alone. Find out more about what’s inside.
4. Dress properly. Not too baggy or tight. Leave a little to the imagination.
5. Give off the impression that you are easy to please.
6. Don’t be gaudy with your nails or jewelry (in excess).
7. Be as open minded as possible.
8. And this is for the men — make sure to have fun on your date in order to make it a memorable time.
9. Dont’s: Don’t be negative or talk about money, religion, politics or past relationships on a first date.
10. Men are simple: They require food, shelter, beverage and sex. If a woman can appeal to those aspects of a man then it’s a pretty good chance you can land them, according to Steve Ward.
Other advice included things like men are more willing to recognize that they are the problem if it isn’t working with another person, whereas women want to say that “he” is the problem and “he” isn’t want I am looking for, etc. Plus, according to the Wards, there are many more eligible women then men so if you see someone you are attracted to, just go for it. Don’t wait for it to happen. Women tend to complain about not meeting any good men, but you need to have what the Wards call “a 360-degree view on life.”
“If you don’t have eyes in the back of your head, then you gotta stop and turn around,” says Steve Ward. “Be mindful of what’s going on around you.”
The Wards even offer a five-step outline for approaching someone you like:
1. Ask a simple open-ended question. Like a silly icebreaker.
2. Within two minutes ask if they are single. It can be scary, but you can only get answers of “yes,” “no” or “why?” so have an answer prepared and keep it positive.
3. Read body language.
4. Make a suggestion. “You know what? You should take me out sometime.” Or “You should call me.”
5. State your expectation. If you give out your number, tell them what you want them to do with it.
The Wards definitely made an impression on the people who came to listen to their advice. I know that some of it is easier said than done, but ladies, you’ve got to do it! Follow this advice because life is too short to not take advantage of every moment. Check out the Ward’s Web site at www.mastermatchmakers.com.
I’m sure the Wards will be back in Atlantic City because when I asked them what their favorite place in Atlantic City was, they said they “loved” the Foundation Room at Showboat. “It’s really cool. Very private, great food, great atmosphere.” They also really liked Mia at Caesars.
Love is in the air this week as we approach one of the most romantic days of the year, Valentine’s Day.
For the majority of couples, this is the one time a year when women get treated like the princesses they are, and men get to experience a little extra romance — if you know what I mean. But seriously, this day isn’t always about love, romance and pure happiness. For those who are single and lonely, this can be one of the most dreaded days of the year. It’s almost like it’s rubbed in your face that no one is giving you one of those chalky, nasty-tasting hearts that say “Be My Valentine.”
And you know what? Who wants one anyway! I say, if you are in love and you’re happy then good for you. Enjoy the day, because it is meant for lovers. And if you are single, then you know what? Enjoy the day too! You know why? Because you aren’t the only one out there. Many people are in the same boat and it takes a lot of patience and persistence to find the right person. Believe me there is nothing wrong with that. So take that day to celebrate yourself, and I have just the right place.
Some of you may have watched the reality show Tough Love on VHI with hosts Steve and Joann Ward. Maybe I shouldn’t admit this, but I love that show. I love learning about the dynamics of people, especially women, when it comes to dating. When I found out that the pair was coming to town (at various Harrah’s Entertainment properties in Atlantic City Feb. 13-14) I couldn’t wait to share that information with you. On Saturday night, Feb. 13, the Wards are going to be hosting a “Speed Dating” event at Dusk nightclub at Caesars. Then on Valentine’s Day, Feb. 14, they will host a “Crash Course in Love.” The latter will be a series of interactive seminars and dating games on relationships, love and finding that special someone. It will be held inside the Harrah’s Concert Venue. There will also be related events throughout the weekend. For more information on this fabulous weekend, check out heartac.com to make your reservation.
Sound Literary Advice
On Valentine’s Day I am sure you will be receiving a sweet poem or some kind words from a loved one. But how would you like to learn about getting your great words published? It just so happens that right here in Atlantic County we have a multi-talented woman who is not only a professional poker player and a winner from Wheel of Fortune, but is also a well known literary agent and published author. Sheree Bykofsky has written, co-authored and edited more than two dozen books and she is going to share publishing secrets with you at her one-of-a-kind workshop called “Spend a Day with a Literary Agent.”
You will learn many things including the difference between a query letter, a pitch and a proposal; how to locate and work with the right agent; how to craft an effective book proposal; and even the difference between placing, publishing and marketing fiction and non-fiction. You can turn your writing dreams into a reality by joining Sheree on Sunday, Feb. 21, from 10am-5pm at Megan’s, located at Boardwalk and Indiana Avenue in A.C. Lunch and refreshments will be included. Admission is $120 through Feb. 18 and $180 thereafter. E-mail her at firstname.lastname@example.org, or send a check or money order payable to Sheree Bykofsky Associates, Inc., P.O. Box 706, Brigantine, NJ 08203. The first 10 paid registrants will get a free copy of Sheree’s bestselling book, The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Getting Published. See you there!
How did you come up with the name of your business?
I feel like stars and angels follow me around so I use them a lot! I had a DJ business for 11 years called C.A. Star. ... Since that business was really no longer, I wanted to start fresh but keep the star effect. My daughter actually thought of the name and I fell in love with it right away.
What do you offer?
I provide a way for the business and entertainment communities to reach higher goals by helping them promote themselves or take them to the next level. ... I also set up grand openings and special events.
What prompted you to start the business?
I have a background in entertainment. I studied theater at Penn State and continued studies at the American Academy of Dramatic Arts in New York. I managed several companies for my dad’s corporation and that gave me my sales and marketing experience. Later in life, I ran a networking group for two years in the South Jersey area. I also ran several groups in the direct-sales market. I found a niche with Tupperware and have been with them for 14 years. I decided to put all of that experience into my own company.
Who are some of your recent clients?
I have three chiropractors, a male belly dancer, a Hawaiian country singer, a variety-act singer, a few tribute artists, a young hip-hop dancer and many more. The hip-hop dancer won a dancing part with the Cirque Dreams cast in his first ever audition that I took him to. There is nothing truer than the saying, “Timing is everything.”
How do you make the connections?
I have a great gut feeling about people and I try to match them with what they need. I make phone calls, but I prefer to meet people in person. I had a lot of connections when I started and I must have tripled that in this first year alone.
Any upcoming events?
I’m doing a showcase with some of my clients on Sunday, March 21, from 5-8pm, at a location to be announced. In the spring I am setting up a wellness expo and launching my new non-profit organization for brain cancer research. And in April we will be doing another Wings tribute show at Rifici’s.
Are you offering specials to new people who sign up?
My initial consultation is free. ... I want to be a company that is different, and I already am. My clients have the potential to meet someone through me who can literally change their lives.
Ava (www.4astar.com) is one of the movers and shakers in our area and is worth calling if you’re interested in the services she provides.
Whitney is an on-air multimedia personality, and works behind the scenes helping businesses gain extra exposure, through her WIN Promotions video production services.