Spring is here and you can tell by the way that everyone has been in a better mood lately.
People want to shop, eat and just be chilling out in the sun. We all want to take advantage and enjoy this great weather, but business still needs to go on. And because we are in better spirits during this time of year, this is a great time to start actively networking and building your businesses.
The great thing is that because it is spring, you have the opportunity to work hard now so you can enjoy your summer months and have your business work for you.
One great opportunity coming up is an exclusive evening at Mia’s Restaurant at Caesars with Sandra Yancey, the president and founder of the e-Women Network. Not only will you get one-on-one time with her, but you will get to socialize, network and build relationships with other great people in the area. This is also one of the few e-Women events where husbands/boyfriends/significant others are welcome to come.
If you want to stay in Atlantic City after the event, Bally’s is offering a reduced room rate. This way, you can also wake up the next day and attend the more formal luncheon where Yancey will be giving a presentation.
Yancey is a networking expert who teaches others how to create relationships that harness great dividends. Starting with just 20 women in her personal database in 2000, she has grown her e-Women organization to now have 113 chapters throughout the United States and Canada and a database of over 500,000 women business owners and professionals. I was recognized last year as an emerging leader, the only one from New Jersey and one of 11 out of the United States and Canada. I have to say that this is an organization that you should take seriously. Women in business: Make every effort to attend the meetings — especially because we are lucky enough to have Marilyn Kleinberg as our local leader.
I know that getting out and networking is no easy task; it takes time, knowledge and patience. But you have to start somewhere and why not start on the night of April 8 for this event? For more information you can contact Kleinberg at email@example.com or 601-1333.
While we are on the subject of women’s groups, there is also the New Jersey Association of Women Business Owners. The Atlantic-Cape May Chapter meets every third Tuesday at the Greate Bay Country Club in Somers Point from 5:30-8:30pm. You can get more information at atlanticcapemaynjawbo.org. I want to thank NJAWBO for recognizing me at their annual Women in Leadership Symposium event a few weeks ago at the PNC Center. There are some great women leaders and NJAWBO helped give me my start in the women-in-business networking field. Their motto is “Empower. Engage. Energize.” and that’s the feeling you’ll get when you attend their meetings.
There is another great women’s group called the South Jersey Womens Network. I love these ladies. We meet every Wednesday morning at the Shore Diner. We are only allowed to have one person from each line of work, so if you have something unique to bring to the table, feel free to check us out. The group’s motto is “For the cost of breakfast, you have hired an entire network to be your sales force.” So make sure to check out the Web site at sjwn.net.
On a side note, I’ve been meaning to tell you about the fabulous Restaurant Gala put on recently by Atlantic Cape Community College. It’s a great annual event because everyone is dressed up, music keeps the party going and, best of all, you get to enjoy as many food samplings that you want. I have to tell you that although I didn’t try everything, I did try a lot and my absolute favorite was the “Manna Dip,” which was created by Manna in Margate, and made with braised short ribs, wild mushrooms, and topped with truffle oil on a brioche roll. Manna’s tagline is “feed your body, nourish your soul.”
A good motto for this time of year!
Are you in your dream home? Do you have your dream car? Do you have your dream diamond ring? I’m guessing most of you said no, but that’s OK, we are all pretty much in the same boat. It’s funny because I go to a lot of motivational classes and I learned a lot from working in the corporate world. One of the things that I always seem to hear is how we need to dream about what we want. When I worked in the mortgage world, many people ripped out photos from car magazines with their dream cars, or they would have a print out of their dream home or Rolex watch, whatever — and it would be staring them in the face every day at their desk. I guess it is a motivating factor for some, but that was never my motivation. My motivation was usually winning the daily contest, excelling in general or the thrill of being No. 1 that month in sales.
Then I would attend seminars and the speakers would talk about envisioning your dream car, house, vacation, jewelry, whatever and the theory is if you put it out there in the universe then it will come to you.
Well, here is some advice for all of you dreamers. This may come as a shock, but you need to stop dreaming and start waking up to reality. Working smart, knowing who you are, surrounding yourself with positive people, and networking efficiently are pretty much the keys to being successful and having all of those fancy things. Having dreams of grandeur, living the lifestyles of the rich and famous is all good and I am not saying it’s a bad thing, but I am saying that if you are living in your dream world then you are not living in reality.
Experts agree that if you concentrate on being the best in your business or raising the best family and making the world a better place then the good life will come. You won’t be disappointed and will more easily accept what you get if your dreams of the good life are more realistic.
Think about how you were raised. Think about what your parents sacrificed for you, think about how you will raise your children, and think about what you are doing now to make sure you are living the life you want. If you’re not, what can you do to start out on the right path?
In life everything happens for a reason and life is too short to let it go by without doing what you love to do. However, you should strive to be someone who works hard and knows how to ask for what you want. The worst that can happen is someone might say no. If that happens, don’t be discouraged. Just say, “Oh well” and move on.
There is an old saying that asks, “Who is rich?” with the answer being, “He who is satisfied with his lot.”
This doesn’t mean to limit yourself and not dream at all, but just reminds us how important it is to appreciate what we have every day.
Don’t be afraid to ask for what you want and make your dreams a reality!
This Friday, March 19, the Greater Atlantic City Jaycees and Atlantic City Weekly are having the 6th annual Top 40 Under 40 celebration at Borgata’s MIXX nightclub. I love this project and event because so many deserving people in our area will be recognized for the many things they do, including their contributions to their community as well as their leadership and entrepreneurship skills. As an honoree in 2008, I know that this honor has certainly changed my life and gave me a boost of confidence as I am sure this has done for many other past and current honorees. I want to say congratulations to everyone who will be honored because you all deserve it!
In this world there are doers and there are sleepers; which one are you? I am always a big fan of doers. I came across this quote by Howard Thurman recently that reads: “Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”
There are a lot of inspirational people (check last issue’s Top 40 Under 40) who are making things come alive in Atlantic City as well as generating new happenings that will help our tourism industry. Here are a few of them:
1) Atlantic City was hoppin’ this past weekend, especially on Friday for the grand opening of the breathtaking venue One Atlantic located on the 4th floor of The Pier Shops at Caesars. With over 1,000 RSVPs, this was surely the place to be and be seen. Upon check in, instead of receiving a ticket or badge to get in, we all got a small, stone-shaped clear-blue bead. Really cute idea, especially for me since I love that stuff.
The owners spared no expense for this grand opening, that’s for sure. From the dancing violinists to the elaborate food, it was truly a fun night. And I can say with confidence that you will enjoy your party there as well. With views of the ocean, Atlantic City Boardwalk, and the glitzy casinos, it is one of a kind. The venue spans 100 yards over the Atlantic Ocean and they have set it up so no matter the size of your party, whether 20 or 1,000, everyone will have an unforgettable time. Not to mention One Atlantic offers gourmet catering with vast menu selections including vegetarian, organic and kosher dishes. Check out oneatlanticevents.com.
2) I have to give a shout out to my colleagues Ray McCline and Ron Gabriele, partners in Sinova Consulting LLC , along with Dr. Joemy Tam, because they just signed a deal with Galaxy Tours. Galaxy Tours is a tourism company based out of China with an operation out of New York City, and Sinova is to make Atlantic City a stop on their multi-city United States itinerary. Other stops include New York City, Toronto, and Washington D.C. Sinova believes that by 2011 they’ll have the opportunity to bring in as many as 150,000 visitors to Atlantic City. This is a great step in the right direction for our tourism industry and I am so proud of them!
3) Also a breath of fresh air for Atlantic City is the Atlantic City Plugged In. It’s a new radio show hosted by Marc Berman on News Talk 1400 WOND every Saturday at 4pm. Tune in live every week at wond1400am.com and hear Berman keep things positive and lively as he interviews various celebs and talks about great things going on in Atlantic City.
4) There are a couple of great tourism groups in A.C. and one is the Greater Atlantic City Region Tourism Council. They meet on a monthly basis with the next meeting on Tuesday March 16 at Dolce Seaview Resort and Spa in Galloway. Check them out online to see what they’re doing at actourism.org. We have another great local group in the Atlantic City Tourism group, put together by Charlie Pinkett. His last meeting was at Planet Rose, so stay tuned for his next meeting which will most likely be in April at Il Mulino in the Taj. You can check out some of his videos and pictures at atlanticcitytourism.net
I’m feeling the vibe that we are preparing ourselves for a fantastic summer. This past weekend the weather was great and people were lively again. Playgrounds were packed and so were the local events.
And I must say that people are ready to get out, hang out and let it all out.
And remember to go for your dreams because the world need people who come alive!
The dating scene around here is very intimidating for various reasons. For one thing, most of us are very hesitant to put ourselves out there because we are afraid of rejection. But like I have written in the past, you can’t win if you don’t play.
My recent advice on dating — as well as the professional advice of VH1 matchmakers Steve and JoAnn Ward (Tough Love)— really resonated with a lot of you. Readers sent me some great comments and questions and I want to share one of the questions because this seems to be a common circumstance. For anonymity purposes we’ll call the person who asked the question: Studly.
He asked, “How can I approach a friend/acquaintance who I am interested in dating, but without it being awkward?”
This is a great question because many times people start out as friends and there is always that lingering thought telling you: “Don’t date your friends because it ruins relationships.” But I believe that if you have feelings for someone and you are romantically interested in that person, then you should say it.
In this circumstance, the woman that Studly is interested in had a boyfriend so he couldn’t ask her a few months ago. Now she is single, however, he fears she (we’ll call her Cutie) will reject him and then it may ruin their friendship. He could say something like, “Hey Cutie, I really enjoy our friendship and as I get to know you, I think you are a great person. I am a little embarrassed and I don’t want this to be awkward, but I have been interested in taking you out on a date for awhile but I knew you had a boyfriend so I didn’t pursue it. Now that things are different, how would you like to have dinner on Saturday?”
Obviously you could word this differently, but you get the point. I gave this advice to Studly and his rebuttal was, “Yeah, but then she could say no and then our friendship will be awkward.”
My answer to him is: you will always have that feeling of uncertainty and it will eat you up because you want to take this friendship to the next level; if you never try then it actually makes things worse for both of you in the long run.
Bottom line: If you are interested in someone then go for it. Seriously, if you always hold back then you will never know and if you can’t remain friendly then maybe you weren’t that good of friends to begin with. Go for it! Take a risk! If anything, it will be flattering to the other person.
Dating can be fun and what better way to take someone out then during Atlantic City Restaurant Week.
Atlantic City Restaurant week runs until Sunday, March 6, with 83 participating restaurants. Check out acrestaurantweek.com for more details.
Other great events, fundraisers, and classes coming up include a PBA fundraiser at Ducktown Tavern in Atlantic City starting at 6:30pm on March 10 ($20 at the door).
The ACCC Restaurant Gala is March 11 at Bally’s in Atlantic City. I go every year; it is so much fun and lots of great food. Go to atlantic.edu for more details.
Also on March 11 the Atlantic County Women’s Hall of Fame annual event will take place at the Trump Marina starting at 6pm. For more details you can visit acwhf.org. Make sure to check out the photographs of all the past inductees in the skywalk between the Atlantic City Convention Center and the Sheraton Atlantic City.
Debra Gitto, our local etiquette specialist, will be holding a class that starts on March 18 (11am-1pm) at Manna Restaurant in Margate called “Executive Dining Etiquette.” Check out her Web site for more information and other upcoming events etiquetteinfo.com.
Also keep your calendar open for March 27 when the Trump Plaza is hosting the Insulin Support Group Diabetes Telethon from 10am-10pm. They are in need of talented vocalists, instrumentalists and dancers for the show being televised live on Comcast TV and streamed on the Web. Contact Mary Moyer at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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